Self-Care-Is that Selfish?

lifecounseling — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 20:39:04 +0000

Often in our lives we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we neglect ourselves. We may feel it’s selfish to think of our needs, or we may think it takes too much time or money. The reality is that appropriate self care is neither selfish nor self indulgent. When we make a commitment to self care we are saying, in effect, “My needs are as important as others, not more important or less important”. Why does this matter? It matters because human beings tend to land at one extreme or another. And both extremes are unhealthy. Some are so self focused that they only think of their own needs. They want the world to revolve around them. They are takers and rarely give. At the other end of the spectrum are the givers. They believe the needs of others are typically more important than their own needs. They tend to overextend themselves in service to others. Unfortunately they often end up burned out or physically sick after years of this pattern.

Healthy self care provides a balance. Giving to others is a good thing. Kindness, thoughtfulness, generosity, even sacrifice, are wonderful qualities that make a difference in others’ lives. However, we can give to the point of self neglect. And so, there are times we need to say no to over-commitment and take time for self care. Self care provides time for renewal physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It replenishes our resources. It strengthens us to make wiser life choices. Opportunities for self care are abundant. Many are free, for example deep breathing, taking a walk, enjoying a sunrise or sunset, or talking with friends. Getting 8 hours of sleep per night can do wonders, as can regular exercise. A more realistic expectation of ourselves and others can lift the burdens of perfectionism or bitterness. Appropriate self care is a wise choice for anyone. Take one idea for self care and use it over the next three weeks. It could be the beginning of a brand new way of healthy living!

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lifecounseling — Wed, 25 May 2011 12:13:20 +0000

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